"Shifting Your Inner Lens: How You Perceive the Meaning of Life's Events"

In our daily lives, we encounter different events. Some make us happy, some make us sad, and some make us angry. But what do these events really mean? In fact, events themselves are neither good nor bad. Whether we perceive them as 'good' or 'bad' depends on our own mindset.

Take rain, for example. For some people, it may be something they do not like. It might prevent them from going out or make them feel uncomfortable when they get wet. For farmers, on the other hand, rain may be "blessing" that helps their crops grow. The same event can be perceived differently by different people.

Similarly, imagine you fail a presentation. At that moment, you might feel a drop in self-esteem and lose confidence. However, this experience can help you develop the skills to give better presentations in the future. Failure can be a valuable growth opportunity.

So how should we deal with events that we perceive as "negative"?

Separate the event from the emotions

Focus on the event itself and calmly put into words how you feel about it.

For example: "My friend ignored me. I feel sad and angry.".

Consider other possibilities

Think about whether there are other ways of interpreting the event.

Example: "It seemed like my friend ignored me, but maybe she was concentrating on something else and didn't notice."

Accept the wave of emotions

Instead of trying to suppress your feelings, acknowledge them honestly. For example, tell yourself, "I'm feeling sad right now. And then tell yourself, "This feeling won't last forever.

Talking to someone

Talking to someone you trust can help you organise your thoughts.

Ultimately, it is up to you to decide what an event means to you. Instead of letting your emotions get the best of you, take a step back and look at your heart. By doing this, you can find new insights and lessons even in difficult situations.

We are the authors of our own life stories. These stories are filled with different events, both happy and sad. The important thing is that no matter what chapter comes next, we continue to write our own life. Even negative events can be turned into fuel to make our future selves shine.

The next time you feel that something 'bad' has happened, stop for a moment. By gaining an objective perspective, you're taking a step towards strengthening your heart. It's not the events themselves that matter; it's how we choose to perceive them that shapes our future.