"Finding Hope: Cultivation of Psychological Resilience"

There are times in life when we encounter difficulties that seem impossible to overcome. In such moments, it can feel hard to hold on to hope for the future. When facing challenging situations, we often lose sight of hope. However, by learning how to cultivate resilience, we can gradually emerge from the darkness and start looking forward again.

When hope feels distant, setting big goals can seem overwhelming. Instead, taking even the smallest step forward can be the first step toward recovery. By starting small and taking on new challenges day by day, we can gradually regain confidence. These small successes eventually lead to significant changes.

Suppressing or ignoring emotions can slow down the healing process. Rather than forcing yourself to erase feelings of anxiety, sadness, or helplessness, it is important to acknowledge them. Every emotion has meaning, and by facing them, we create space for emotional growth. Instead of suppressing your true feelings, allowing yourself to experience them fully is key to building resilience.

In times of hardship, loneliness can be overwhelming, making it even more essential to stay connected with others. Conversations with family, friends, or trusted individuals can lighten emotional burdens and provide new perspectives. By not carrying everything alone and valuing mutual support, we strengthen our resilience. Even the smallest conversations can ease the heart and bring renewed strength.

Resilience is not built overnight, but daily habits play a crucial role in fostering emotional stability. Introducing small positive changes into daily life—such as going for a walk, reading, or taking time to relax—can support emotional recovery. These simple habits become a source of hope in everyday life.

Having a vision for the future is also important. By reflecting on past experiences and gradually shaping how we want to live, we can rediscover hope. Envisioning the future opens up new possibilities and helps us find light even in the darkest times. No matter how difficult things may seem, believing in a brighter future and taking small steps forward is key.

I have experienced this journey of rediscovering hope myself.

Seven years ago, I was handed a **Prohibited Steps Order and a Divorce Petition** at the courthouse without any prior notice. Until that moment, my ex-husband had never mentioned divorce to me. As a stay-at-home mother with a young child, this came as a complete shock. I had no knowledge of legal proceedings, no idea where to start, and I had to fight this battle in English—a second language for me. I felt utterly lost, as if my life had been thrown into an abyss.

Despite the confusion, I made a firm decision: I would not lose to my ex-husband in court. Although he included many false statements in the legal documents, I resolved to face the trial with honesty and integrity. Later, I worked relentlessly to become a counsellor, struggling with unfamiliar English terminology while pushing myself to study harder than ever before.

Looking back, I now believe that experience was necessary for me. Today, I am many times happier than I was back then. At the time, I could never have imagined such a future, but I gradually regained my self-worth, and now I can say that I am about 80% comfortable with who I am. Most importantly, life in the UK has become much easier for me.

It is because of this experience that I write blogs and work as a counsellor—to share my journey and offer support to others.

Hope is always there, waiting to be found. Even if you cannot see it now, believe that taking one step at a time will eventually lead you to the light.

Let’s find your Locus of Life together!

🔹 Prohibited Steps Order

A legal order issued by the family court that prevents a parent from making certain decisions regarding their child. It is often used to restrict actions such as taking a child abroad or changing their school without consent.

🔹 Divorce Petition

A formal document submitted to the court in the UK to initiate divorce proceedings. It outlines the grounds for divorce and any related conditions requested by the petitioner.